Begin Again with Davina McCall

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Thursday, 3 July 2025 - 1 hour 32 minutes

In this episode of Begin Again, celebrated relationship expert and Married At First Sight psychologist Mel Schilling shares the most powerful lessons she's learned from decades of guiding couples — and from her own late-in-life love story.

Mel opens up about what dating later in life really looks like, why modern romance requires a different mindset, and how anyone — at any age — can find meaningful connection. She reflects on her journey of becoming a mother in her forties, meeting her partner abroad, and the myths we need to unlearn about love, sex, and intimacy as we age.

With warmth, clarity, and a no-nonsense approach, Mel explains how to keep the spark alive in long-term relationships, why emotional intimacy is often misunderstood, and the practical shifts every couple can make to deepen their connection.

This episode is full of honest insights, surprising truths, and expert strategies for anyone navigating love — whether you're starting over or trying to reignite what you already have.

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https://www.tiktok.com/@beginagainpod00:00 Intro  

01:00 Davina’s Introduction  

01:55 Mutual Appreciation and Warm-Up  

04:22 Mel’s Early Ambition and Power of Manifestation  

07:25 Where Psychology Meets Peak Performance  

09:02 Finding Love Later in Life: Mel’s Story  

11:01 Trust, Safety, and Dating After 40  

13:39 Building a Dating Brand: Self-Awareness and Authenticity  

16:30 Letting Go of Old Identities in Relationships  

19:13 Mindset Shifts That Transform Dating Perspectives  

25:20 Rejection, Resilience, and Emotional Strength in Dating  

29:11 Knowing Your Dealbreakers While Actively Dating  

33:15 Core Relationship Values

35:23 Mel’s Honest Miscarriage Journey  

38:37 The Reality of Sex While Trying to Conceive  

41:13 Mel’s IVF Experience and Emotional Impact  

44:40 Thoughts on Parenthood and Family Life  

47:35 Ancient + Brave Ad

49:04 Davina Reflects on Her Relationship with Michael  

51:45 Ranking Relationship Values with Michael and Davina  

1:13:13 Davina and Michael on Marriage and Commitment  

1:13:45 Which Values Matter Less in a Relationship?  

1:17:37 Understanding Consent in Modern Relationships  

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