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Monday, 7 July 2025 - 1 hour 59 minutes

World-Renowned Addiction Expert Dr. K reveals the SHOCKING truth about masturbation, pornography, dopamine burnout, incels, and why 60% of men under 30 are single. Dr K from Healthy Gamer! 

Dr. Alok Kanojia (aka Dr. K) is a world-leading addiction expert, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, and founder of Healthy Gamer, the platform helping young adults break free from porn addiction, dopamine burnout, and emotional numbness. He hosts unfiltered mental health conversations on Twitch and is the author of the book, ‘How to Raise a Healthy Gamer’.

He explains:

• The deadly trap that fuels loneliness

• How to rebuild your brain and reclaim your energy from dopamine burnout 

• How social media is hijacking your brain’s reward system

• Why so many young men feel lost and emotionally numb

• How to reconnect with purpose when life feels empty 

  
  

  Topics:

  00:00 Intro

  02:30 Who Is Dr. K?

  03:31 Understanding You Can Only Control Yourself

  04:45 The Risk of Wanting to Change Our External Environment

  05:42 Internal Work Will Manifest Outward

  07:28 How to Stop Having a Bad Day

  09:49 How to Get Rid of Desire and Temptation

  13:06 Addiction to Pleasure

  14:30 Why Ignoring Red Flags Favours Evolution

  15:54 Post-Nut Clarity

  19:24 The Societal Impact of Porn

  22:44 The Mating Crisis: What's Happening Between Men and Women?

  27:54 Are Men Disappearing From Society?

  35:50 Can Society Take Responsibility for Current Issues?

  40:04 Do People Have a Right to Reproduce?

  44:04 Helping Patients With Commitment Issues

  46:20 Treating Addiction

  49:33 Alternate Nostril Breathing Practice

  51:59 Why People Are Addicted to Porn and How to Overcome It

  52:50 How Willpower Works in the Brain

  56:11 Partner Has a Problem With You Watching Porn

  57:03 Why Addiction Is on the Rise in Society

  58:01 Ads

  59:08 Why Do People With Past Addictions Seem to Be Spiritual?

  01:00:12 Addiction Example

  01:01:43 Intersection of Addiction and Spirituality

  01:02:54 Laws of Existence: Why Were You Born in Your Family?

  01:05:02 Do You Believe in a God?

  01:06:52 Meditation, Ego Death, and Otherworldly Experiences

  01:10:59 Why Don’t You Talk About Your Own Spiritual Experiences?

  01:15:55 Should People With Depression Use Psychedelics?

  01:18:46 What Happens After Death?

  01:19:40 How to Cultivate Your "Why"

  01:23:34 What You Think You Want vs What You Actually Want

  01:30:13 Why Do We Not Like Being With Ourselves in Silence?

  01:32:07 Tips for Your Self-Development Journey

  01:35:46 Avoidance of Emotions

  01:37:53 Ads

  01:39:54 Why Resistance Doesn’t Heal Addiction

  01:44:04 AI Girlfriends

  01:46:06 ChatGPT Feeds Into Your Cognitive Biases

  01:51:22 Will AI Hinder Our Ability to Form Relationships?

  01:54:06 What Is the Most Powerful Love in Your Life?

  
  

Follow Dr. K:

YouTube - https://bit.ly/4kt6zHD 

Instagram - https://bit.ly/3GucTk6 

Twitch - https://bit.ly/4koV4Rx 

You can purchase Dr K’s book, ‘How To Raise a Healthy Gamer’, here: https://bit.ly/3U1D3xH 

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