The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

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Thursday, 12 June 2025 - 1 hour 30 minutes

Swipe left, feel empty, and wonder why? Esther Perel reveals the hidden truths behind the dating crisis, loneliness, and the shocking decline in sex and intimacy.

Esther Perel is a world-renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert, widely recognised as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. She is the bestselling author of books such as, ‘The State of Affairs’. 

She explains: 

• Why MEN Over 30 Aren’t Having Sex Anymore.

• The SEX GAME that could Save Your Relationship.

• How CHILDHOOD TRAUMA is Secretly Sabotaging Your Marriage.

• Why Investing in AUTHENTIC CONNECTION is the key to a Fulfilling Life.

• The ONE RED FLAG that Predicts Divorce. 

  
  

  00:00 Intro

  02:29 Esther’s Main Concern About Human Connection

  03:22 What’s the Consequence of Losing Social Skills?

  04:19 Is Online Dating the Only Choice Nowadays?

  07:13 The Value of Rejection

  07:52 Rejection from the Apps

  08:48 What to Do If Dating Apps Don’t Work for You

  11:26 Is Too Much Choice Making Dating Harder?

  13:01 How to Cope with Online Dating Burnout

  14:30 The Changing Role of Masculinity and Its Impact on Society

  15:57 Loneliness Today

  17:17 Why Do People Have Less Sex Nowadays?

  20:17 Importance of Deep Connection in Relationships

  21:51 How Phone Use Affects Connection and Sexual Attraction

  28:07 Questions from Steven’s Friends

  28:53 Is It Always a Good Idea to Admit to Infidelity?

  31:17 Attraction with a Partner

  33:36 Is Long-Term Faithfulness in a Relationship Possible?

  37:06 Importance of Taking Accountability

  39:21 How People Are Energizing Their Relationships

  42:59 How to Revive Intimacy When Gone for So Long

  44:52 Ads

  45:55 Do People Enjoy Sex Less Than Before?

  48:15 Do I Have to Work on Myself Before I Can Have a Good Relationship?

  49:49 Has the Culture of Self-Love Gone Too Far?

  51:19 Are Men Emasculated by the Success of Women?

  59:08 What Is Social Confidence?

  1:02:56 What Gives a Traumatic Experience Meaning?

  1:14:10 Would You Delete Mobile Phones to Help Connection?

  1:17:08 Can Social Connection Principles Apply to a Workplace?

  1:22:06 How Are You Going to Adapt to a World of AI and Robots?

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