The Orgasm Expert: "Low Libido" Doesn't Exist! The Real Reason You're Not In The Mood

Begin Again with Davina McCall

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Thursday, 12 November 2026 - 1 hour 14 minutes

Why does desire fade in long-term relationships? And could everything we’ve been taught about female pleasure be wrong?

In this eye-opening episode of Begin Again, Davina McCall is joined by clinical psychologist and psychosexologist Dr Karen Gurney to explore the truth about female pleasure, sexual desire and intimacy, and why so much of what we’ve been taught is holding us back.

Karen challenges the idea of “foreplay”, explains why arousal can come before desire, and unpacks why feeling like you have a “low libido” doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong. From the orgasm gap and women’s pleasure to the myths surrounding male desire, she shares what really shapes a fulfilling sex life.

Together, Davina and Karen talk honestly about why passion can fade in long-term relationships, how to rebuild intimacy without pressure, and the surprisingly powerful role of flirting, affection and kissing simply for the joy of it.

They also explore how to talk to your partner about sex without shame, how body confidence affects pleasure, and why getting older can bring a wonderful new sense of sexual freedom.

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(00:00) Intro

(01:36) Why Brits Struggle With Sex Talk

(04:37) How Women's Views On Sex Become Distorted

(08:21) Why "Virginity" And "Foreplay" Are Problematic Words

(10:34) Educating Young People On Healthy Sex

(12:04) Talk To Your Kids About Masturbation & Pleasure

(20:36) Male vs. Female Orgasms

(26:35) How Women Can Enjoy Sex More

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(46:28) What Keeps Sexual Desire Alive

(01:05:28) Why Body Confidence Is Key To Great Sex

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